Lingam Massage – The Ultimate Benefit of Sanskrit!
Posted on May 5, 2008
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The Sanskrit word for the male sexual organ is lingam. It loosely translates as the “wand of light”. It’s meaning is different in intention from the typical western view of the penis. In tantrum/sacred sexuality, the lingam is respectfully viewed and honored, a “wand of light” that channels creative energy and pleasure.
The purpose of the lingam massage is to create a space for the receiver to relax, and receive expanded pleasure from his lingam. The lingam massage can be used as a form of safer sex also, and is an excellent process to build trust and intimacy. It is often used to help men heal from negative sexual conditioning and trauma.
Difficulty with premature ejaculation, or improving male sexual stamina can often be healed through loving nurturing of the lingam. Through this sacred ritual, you learn to release old beliefs that are keeping you from your full potential as a lover, and your full enjoyment of your sexuality.
Sexual release is NOT the goal of the lingam massage, although it can be a welcome and pleasant side effect. The goal is to massage the lingam, also including the testicles, perineum, and the sacred spot, and allow the man to surrender to a form of pleasure he may not be used to. From this perspective, both receiver and giver relax into the massage.
Men need to learn how to relax and receive. Traditional sexual conditioning has the man in a doing, goal-orientated mode. The lingam massage allows the man to experience his softer, more receptive side and experience pleasure from a non-traditional perspective.
Take a relaxing bath or shower if possible beforehand. Take your time and breathe deeply. Conscious, relaxed breathing will take you out of your mental process and will get you more into your feelings. Relax your belly and let go of the tension that most of us hold there.
Go to the bathroom before the massage begins and before your shower. The best results occur when the bowels and bladder are empty.
Have the receiver lie on his back with pillows under his head so he can look up at the masseur. Spread his legs apart with the knees slightly bent, and clearly exposed for the massage.
Before contacting the body, begin with deep, relaxed breathing. Gently massage the legs, the abdomen, thighs, chest, nipples, etc. to get the receiver to relax. Remind the receiver to breathe deeply and to sink deeper into relaxation.
Pour a small quantity of the massage creame on the shaft of the lingam, or in the hands of the giver and warm it to body temperature. Begin gently massaging the testicles, taking care not to cause pain on this sensitive area. Massage the scrotum gently, causing it to relax. Massage the area above the lingam, on the pubic bone. Massage the perineum, the area between the testicles and anus. Take your time. You are giving a massage to an often-neglected area of the body.
Massage the shaft of the lingam as if you are using and orange juicer. Massage all around the head and shaft, In Tantrum there are many nerve endings in the lingam that correspond to other parts of the body. It is said receiving a good lingam massage can cure many ailments.
NOTE: The lingam may or may not go soft as you perform this technique. Do not worry if it doesn’t get hard again. You will find that is will get hard, then go soft, get hard again, etc. This is actually a desirable tantrum experience, like riding a wave, bobbing up and down. Hardness and softness are two ends of the pleasure spectrum.
If it appears that the receiver is about to ejaculate, back off, allowing the lingam to soften a little before resuming the massage. Do this several times, coming close to ejaculation, and then backing off. Remember, the goal is not orgasm. Men can learn the art of ejaculatory mastery and control be coming close to ejaculation and then backing off on the stimulation. Deep breathing is key here and will soften the urge to ejaculate. Eventually, ejaculatory mastery will allow you to make love as long as you want and you can become multi-orgasmic without losing a drop of semen. Orgasm and ejaculation are two different responses that you can learn to separate. The result is an expanded sex life.
Find and massage the male Sacred Spot. There are two ways to do this.
One is by finding the spot midway between the testicles and the anus. There is a small indentation about the size of a pea of maybe larger. Be gentle and push inward. He will feel the pressure deep inside and it may be intensely painful at first. Eventually, as this area is worked on and softened, he will be able to expand his orgasms and master ejaculatory control. You can massage his lingam with your right hand and massage his sacred spot with your left hand. Try pushing in on this spot when he nears ejaculation. It’s aptly named the Million-dollar point in Taoism.
The other way to access the Sacred Spot is thru the anus. Many men, especially heterosexual men, are uncomfortable at first as a result of negative sexual conditioning. Be careful here and use plenty of lubrication. The key is to go slow and be very gentle. Make sure he is breathing as you slip a finger from your right hand into the anus about an inch or so. Then crook the finger back in a “come here” gesture. You will feel the prostate gland. Vary the pressure and speed of the massage. He may want stimulation of the lingam as you massage the Sacred Spot. Back off the lingam as he approaches orgasm and increase the pressure on the sacred spot.
Sometimes the man may have strong emotions come up during access to the sacred spot. He may cry and remember a traumatic event from the past. You, the giver, are in a place of trust and intimacy. Allow him to feel his emotions and be very loving, not trying to console or fix him, just let him feel whatever he needs to. Encourage him to scream, cry, moan, and sob, if it feels appropriate. Be the best friend and healer he could have at that moment.
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